Have you ever felt like you wanted to quit? I know I have. Everyone has faced a time in their life when they’ve wanted to give up. But like I say to the members of the GSD Society – it’s a slow process but quitting won’t speed it up. So, if you feel like quitting right now, clear your head and ask yourself these questions…
1. Why did I start?
When you get to a point where you feel like quitting, ask yourself why you wanted to do this in the first place. Were you passionate about it? Did it make you excited? What did you want to change? When you want to give up, remembering why you started will put it all into perspective for you.
2. What about the end result?
For all of my coaching clients, Fabulous Foundations students and GSD Society members, I encourage them to not only outline their goals and action steps but to imagine how they’ll feel when they complete and reach them. You can do this too when you feel like you want to quit. Picture your future and what it’ll be like if you decide not to quit. If you haven’t already, define what success means to you – it will help you to discover what you want your life to look and feel like. Doing this makes it all the more real. Seeing that end result will motivate you to keep going. It gives you the drive to face the challenges you’ll experience and feel more confident creating a strategy to get to where you want to be. You’re not only now doing this for the reason you started, but because you want that sense of achievement in creating a life you love.
3. Who are you doing it for?
Are you doing this to please others or are you doing it for yourself? You should be doing it for you. Don’t work towards someone else’s dream. Yes, you need to focus on your ideal clients to help you to get there and to create a business model to bring in money, but ultimately, YOU want to do something different in your own life. You want more and that’s totally possible for you. So many of us follow a path that society (including often our parents) wants us to, but there are now more and more people breaking that mould to live their ideal life. You deserve it and you can do whatever you want to do. Just be sure to make sure it’s your goals and dream you’re working towards.
4. How motivated are you?
Everyone has wanted to quit. You’ve got to find ways to keep yourself motivated, like inspirational quotes, a book or a great podcast. Members of the GSD Society get access to exclusive trainings from people who have been where you are and resources like reading recommendations, all to inspire them to move forward. They’ve also got an accountability buddy to keep them going when they’re finding things tough. Whether they just need someone to listen, words of inspiration and advice, someone to encourage them to keep going forward and make sure they take action, the buddy up system is perfect. One thing to keep in mind though is that you can be your own inspiration and motivation – just like I mentioned above about knowing your why. While we can try out various methods, consume content/ideas and create an environment to get us in the zone, overall, your driving force needs to be strong enough to make you take action.
5. Can you find a solution?
Why do you really want to quit? Are you too tired with the work? Do you need a break? Instead of giving up completely, find a solution to the problem. If you need to take a break, take one. Once you get to the reason of why you want to quit, focus on how you can make it better. There is ALWAYS a solution, even if you can’t see it at first. Break down everything, speak to people who are on the same journey as you, like my ladies do in the GSD Society private Facebook group. You don’t have to go this alone. Is quitting really worth it when there will be a solution right around the corner? There aren’t any magic formulas, but there are strategies and people who have been there, got the T-shirt. Quitting is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You can and WILL find a way to move forward. And if not? That’s what my role as a success coach is there for.
6. Did you have a bad start or get off on the wrong foot?
You might have had a bad start but don’t judge the rest of your time based on that. Things will get better. Try to push away those feelings of wanting to give up and find the power and courage to keep going. In my Fabulous Foundations course, I get vulnerable with my students and share my money story. I grew up thinking that I shouldn’t earn 6-figures. That people with nice cars were *****s and so much more. So I had to work on my money mindset. You don’t have to have had bad experiences growing up to encounter these negative thoughts. Perhaps it’s your spouse who feels like they’re being supportive but are reflecting their feelings around success on you, leaving you feeling unmotivated. Or maybe, you actually didn’t get off to the best start. Like a launch that didn’t go as you’d hoped or personal issues cropping up meaning you went off schedule. As an entrepreneur, you have to learn to let things go, pick yourself up and carry on. It’s possible you made some decisions too quickly or weren’t strategic too. It’s normal to have doubts and uncertainties, and it’s natural that you’ll always want to revert back to your comfort zone. Changes happen and you need to fight through the early stages to give things a chance. Give it time and see how your feelings change.
7. Do you believe in yourself?
Look how far you’ve come so far. Look at everything you’ve achieved. It would be such a shame to throw that all away because of some negative feelings. You have the strength to keep going. You will get there. While I’m all about taking action, mindset plays a big part. You are the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Did you know that? So make those people those who believe in you. If you don’t believe in yourself, why? Get to the bottom of this as it will really help you to overcome this barrier. Write down your negative beliefs and then follow them with statements turning them around. This is my favourite way to work through these and I journal every day. It’s not about manifesting, it’s about believing you can so that you put in the work to make it happen.
I promise you, it’s normal to feel like giving up when things get tough. Keep going and finish what you started. When you reach your goal, just think how proud you’ll be that you didn’t quit.
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